Belief Building October 2024

I know it’s Autumn, but I want to mention Spring cleaning.

I have been reading Marie Kondo’s book “Spark Joy” and even if I didn’t take any action, I think I would be enjoying the book as it appeals to my inner organiser. But the added bonus is that it has prompted me to clear out old clothes and books. I’ve even delved into organising paperwork and admin!

Maybe this newsletter will spark some enthusiasm for Autumn cleaning!
Enjoy😊 
Sinead

Marie Kondo is best known as a Japanese tidying expert. She has trademarked her unique approach to decluttering, calling it the KonMari Method. Marie was influenced by her grandmother’s careful attention to her home and belongings as a child and always had a love of being organised and tidy. As a 19 year old University student in Tokyo, Marie started her tidying consultancy business.

Essentially Marie’s method focuses on keeping what you love, “sparks joy”, in Marie’s words. Marie has written numerous books, appeared in a Netflix documentary, been featured in many magazines and TV shows. She comes across as polite, modest and helpful.  Her “tidying-up” movement has millions of followers worldwide.

I have just read her book, “Spark Joy” and I felt joy just reading the book. It’s easy to read and Marie’s gentle encouragement did help me declutter clothes and books. Also, her words instill a sense of respect for our possessions, even things we don’t normally give much attention to, like socks!

“Your feet bear your weight and help you live your life, and it is your socks that cradle those feet.  The socks you wear at home are particularly important because thy are the contact point between you and your house, so choose ones that will make the time you spend there even more enjoyable.”

Marie offers caring advice on the best way to fold and store socks, proclaiming that “Balling your socks and stockings, or tying them into knots is cruel. Please put an end to this practice today.”


I loved Marie’s message about books.

“The energy of book titles and the words inside them are very powerful. In Japan, we say that ‘words make our reality’.  The words we see and with which we come into contact tend to bring about events of the same nature. In that sense you will become the person who matches the books you have kept. What kind of books would you want in your bookcase to reflect the kind of person you aspire to be?”

Marie advises looking along the spines of the books in your shelves to see what words jump out at you. She goes so far as to suggest that someone who is looking for a partner may be unconsciously thwarting themselves if many of the words staring out of them include “single” or have messages like “cooking for one”.

This overlaps with areas of positive psychology and thoughts related to the Law of Attraction and other ideas as proposed by books such as “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne and “Manifest” by Roxie Nafousi. Given the recent popularity of concepts about the power of our thinking, I think Marie’s book advice is worth noting.


“The best way to find out what we really need, is to get rid of what we don’t.” Marie Kondo

Clutter obscures what’s most important. Discarding that which doesn’t support your ideal lifestyle creates space for treasured possessions to truly shine — and leaves room for future joy-sparking additions.” Marie Kondo

“If you’re not using the stuff in your home, get rid of it. You’re not going to start using it more by shoving it in a closet somewhere.” Joshua Becker

Belief Building May 2024

May is a beautiful month of growth.

There are beech trees near where I live and they start the month as dry branches with brown, crepey, curled-up leaves. They end the month with soft, unfurled, green leaves, that are so lush and abundant, the branches are hidden.

Nature doesn’t resist change, but sometimes we do.

I know some students who are finishing college and others who are finishing secondary school this month.  Some are excited for the next chapter, some are nervous and would like to stay put.  Endings are difficult as we don’t always want to let go of where we are. 

As we get older, people find aging difficult, looking back wistfully at the vibrancy of their youth.

But every stage has something new for us and we would become stale if we never changed and moved forward.  Read on for more on this topic…

Have a good month!
Sinead

I recently finished Dr. Maureen Gaffney’s book, “Your One Wild and Precious Life: An inspiring guide to becoming your best self at any age.”  Each chapter describes a different stage of life, going from infancy to old age.

Some friends advised me to dive in and start reading from the stage that I was at myself but I read the whole book, cover to cover. I found it easy to read and it left me feeling uplifted about growing older. Every stage in life has its own purpose and we are always learning and developing. As Maureen outlines, we have 3 main drivers; 1. closeness, 2. competence and 3. autonomy and the importance of each one varies over our life stages.

I enjoyed the optimism in the book which showed it is possible to liberate yourself from past beliefs or limiting messages that you tell yourself and embrace every new day, regardless of your age.

In psychologist Maureen’s own words “At any stage, you are never fully formed. The story is never over. The story is always of a life in progress.”


If we are always holding onto the past, we don’t make space for the future.

A couple of months ago, I met a lady who had just published her first book of poetry.  She had let go of previous beliefs about her writing and took a risk.  Here’s one of her poems about a beech tree that let go of its past to become something new!
 

Dreamboat by Mary P. O’Sullivan

Miles away from the sea, it grew,
The beech tree in Greenhill.
From seed to sapling
Loving the sun
Loving the rain
Longing and reaching for the light.
Bowing and bending
Curving it’s lovely limbs
While a crookedness took hold.
Down to it’s very roots
where it’s dreams were audible
To nodding neighbours
For they were kind.
A dream, impossible dream maybe,
To maybe, just once,
Be launched, set free
Transformed into a different beauty.

So long years it waited
Until the appointed day
When a master carpenter stopped by
And two dreams fused
Still held within the heart
His artist’s eye recognised
Within the imagined flaw
The curving lines of his dreamboat
The perfect prow, the sturdy hull
A vision of genius and beauty
Launched upon the waves
Carrying it’s cargo of life’s memories
And proud achievements.
It’s precious store of stories
Of faith and love and trust
Of those who bravely took the boats
The ships to sail far away
In search of a new life
Silently holding the broken hearts
Of those still standing on the shore
Waving their tear drenched handkerchiefs,
Praying, believing in their safe homecoming
Once again reunited in laughing joy.


This realization that neither time nor choices are limitless is both daunting and exciting. This is the moment to take stock and figure out how to make the best of every precious moment of the rest of your life.” Maureen Gaffney

The difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from old ones.” John Maynard Keynes

The Trees” Philip Larkin (if you would like another poem related to this month’s theme)

The trees are coming into leaf
Like something almost being said;
The recent buds relax and spread,
Their greenness is a kind of grief.

Is it that they are born again
And we grow old? No, they die too.
Their yearly trick of looking new
Is written down in rings of grain.

Yet still the unresting castles thresh
In fullgrown thickness every May.
Last year is dead, they seem to say,
Begin afresh, afresh, afresh.

Belief Building January 2024

I’m really not sure how I feel about New Year’s resolutions.  I think it can be good to have a feeling of a fresh start or a particular focus for the year but I don’t like the idea that we might be under pressure to achieve something. 

In recent years, I’ve used a word of the year as my guiding resolution.  Here’s a blog I wrote about this a few years ago.  I’m still trying to decide what this year’s word might be – I was waiting for inspiration to strike when I thought to myself “inspiration” might be a good word. 

Maybe in the sense of being open to fresh thinking and new ideas but also in the sense that I should trust my own inspiration and gut feeling.  Hopefully those 2 aspects don’t seem conflicting!

Maybe I’ll mull it over for a while – as I said, I don’t want anything to feel pressurised!

Happy New Year
Sinead

I have often mentioned the author, Oliver Burkeman, in this newsletter and I remain a fan of his work in 2024.

Below is a quote from his blog “Don’t feel obliged” and sums up the feeling that I think accompanies resolutions. If we set ourselves a new target or decide to start a new hobby, we can start to resent it when it begins to feel like a daily pressure. I think this is especially true if we tell someone about our plans.

“One of my special talents, looking at my life so far, has been the amazing ability to turn any activity or opportunity – no matter how potentially delightful or exciting – into a burdensome obligation that I wish I didn’t have to fulfill.”

Cold January when daylight hours are limited and we are returning to work or school after a relaxing Christmas break, is definitely not the time to impose burdens on ourselves.

A gentle introduction to the new year is what I recommend.


I love the attitude portrayed by author, Marian Keyes, in this social media post from a few years ago:
 

We can’t all be Beyoncé.
if everyone was Beyonce, NO-ONE would be Beyoncé.
The world NEEDS mediocre people, those without iron willpower, stamina and killer work ethic.
People whose flaws get the better of them.
Like me.
Sometimes I think that if I stopped eating and sleeping and exercised for 17 hours a day I could be FABALISS.
Never as FABALISS as Bey, but a much more impressive version of me.
But I haven’t got the discipline or the willpower power or -frankly- the energy.
So, I’ll be making NO resolutions tonight to change every single thing about myself.
I am a non-Beyoncé.
And in the human ecosystem, I too have a place.


You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you.” Eckhart Tolle

Remove ‘shoulds’ from your vocabulary this year. Start your journey of self-love now.” Kelly Martin

I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.” Albert Einstein 

Awaken Your Power Within

Gerry Hussey’s “Awaken Your Power Within” covers many elements.  Gerry introduces us to aspects of science, elements about our own beliefs, exercises to encourage self-reflection and meditation, advice to help us find our potential as well as Gerry’s own personal story.

It has taken me 3 months to read this book.  I have never met Gerry but if he was open to a suggestion from me, it is that I think structuring the book as a 3 month course similar to, for example, “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron might make it even more accessible and perhaps more actionable.  Maybe that suggestion is also to help me feel better about taking so long to read the book!

Overall, this is an excellent book packed with insight and advice, that’s why I had to progress slowly!

A key message that I took from the book was, whilst being connected via external relationships is essential as we are social beings, we must also be important to ourselves.  If we don’t prioritise our link with our authentic selves, we lose sight of who we really are and constantly seek external approval to fit in and please others.

One of my favourite exercises that Gerry offers is about how to construct and sustain positive thoughts.  He uses the analogy of crossing a 100m wide river using 10 pieces of timber, each 10m long.

He gives an example of someone who has an initial thought that they will start a business but relatively quickly this is followed up with doubt thoughts and so this person talks themselves out of their initial ambition.  Gerry suggests trying to create a sequence of 10 thoughts all of which sustain the initial idea, so that plank by plank, we cross the river. 

Sustaining 10 thoughts in a row is firing new beliefs in the brain and creating a pathway that cements our self-belief in our own ideas.  It’s a way to help us beat the fear thoughts that will always pop-up.  I liked this as its simple but I can see how it would be effective.  It’s challenging to get to 10 thoughts in a row without succumbing to negative beliefs.

I enjoyed this book and I’m grateful to Gerry for sharing his personal story as well as his expertise as a performance psychologist and coach.

I’ll finish with 3 of my favourite quotes from the book.

We can’t arrive at a new destination using the same old roads of the past.

Today is either one day or day one.”

We only die once, we get to live every single day.”

Happy New Year

At this time of year, we think about setting goals for next year.  I don’t usually set specific resolutions and instead choose a word that is my guide for the year.  I wrote a blog about this strategy last year.  You can read that here.

My word for 2021 was Creativity

I started the year doing some sewing but as the year progressed, I did more writing and some art related projects (including attempting to draw cartoons).  In the latter part of the year, I became a more creative cook (although still not a very good one)!

Another aspect, perhaps the most important, involved being more creative in my thinking.  Specifically, I tried to look at challenges differently, I tried to see alternative ways that I could approach my daily life and I sought inspiration from different sources.

I’m delighted with what I achieved.  From starting a regular blogging habit, to creating a website, to designing a newsletter, to tapping into different reading material and new contacts for advice and encouragement. 

Looking forward my word for 2022 is Belief

I intend nurturing my self-belief, encouraging others to rise above self-doubt to believe in themselves and above all, I will hold the belief that anything is possible.

This time last year, I didn’t think that in 12 months I would have a website and almost 50 subscribers to my newsletter, which is called “Belief Building”.  

But I have a website and with an additional 10 subscribers, I will hit my target number of subscribers for 2021. 

This is a link to a sample newsletter which is hosted on my website. Future newsletters will be delivered by email and  I intend to create one per month in 2022. Each will offer an inspirational story about someone who achieved something that may have seemed impossible, some advice on maintaining motivation and some quotes from encouraging people.

If you know anyone who would like to join me in Belief Building in 2022, please feel free to share this link to subscribe.

Happy New Belief Building!

Feature Image Credit: Wout Vanacker via Unsplash

The Monk who sold his Ferrari

“There is a huge difference between well-being and being well-off”.

This is a quote from ‘The Monk who sold his Ferrari‘ by Robin Sharma. The book grabs attention from the start as we are intrigued by the transformation of a hot-shot lawyer into a serene monk.

As the book progresses the monk shares the secrets of his transformation with his former protégée, who is now a stressed lawyer with his own busy legal practice.

The 7 fundamental pieces of advice offered are:

Feed your mind with quality thoughts

Find your purpose

Pursue self-mastery and improvement

Cultivate willpower

Be disciplined with your time

Contribute to others

Live in the present

I have read other similar books.  What sets this apart is the storytelling and use of fables, which leave a memorable picture in the reader’s mind.  The author, makes what could be very abstract and difficult to grasp an easy-to-follow story.

Here are 7 of my favourite quotes from the book.

“There are no mistakes in life, only lessons.”

“The only limits on your life are those that you set yourself.”

“One must never live in the thick of thin things.”

“The only thing standing between most people and their dreams is the fear of failure.”

“Time is a non-renewable resource.”

“A little bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives you roses.”

“The journey is to be enjoyed.  The road is just as good as the end.”

I am grateful to the friends who recommended this book to me, it’s an inspiring read!

Fresh Start

Today is a fresh start!

Every day is a fresh start. Every minute is a fresh start.

For 10 weeks in a row, I have posted a blog to LinkedIn at the weekend. However, I didn’t do that this weekend.

I had a busy week and the right idea for a blog never came to me.

This morning (Monday), I was disappointed that I’d broken my streak.

Out walking, I saw a group of swans – I counted 10 and thought 10 is a good number and it looks a lot (I had to take 2 photos to capture all the swans), so I should be happy with how far I’ve got with the blogs.

And then I had the inspiration – its never too late! 

Just as easily as another swan might come along, I could write a blog today – there’s no rule saying I can only post blogs at the weekend.


Sometimes we impose rules on ourselves that aren’t there at all. Sometimes we think because we’ve been doing something for weeks, months or years, we must keep doing it but that’s not the case.

We can always have a fresh start.

New Academic Year

Does a new academic year conjure up thoughts of a fresh start and a clean slate?

Lots of us buy new notebooks and pens to get ready.

If we were living in the 1800s, we would literally have been using a clean slate.

Although in reality the slate wasn’t always 100% clean, as traces of what was there before sometimes remained even after wiping.

Perhaps that’s reflective of life in that when we embark on a fresh start, we can’t completely erase what happened before. Sometimes this reality discourages us.

But maybe we can use what we already have to our advantage?

My new journal in the attached photo reminds me of an example of this.

When the Star Wars team were filming on Skellig Michael, the local puffin birds kept wandering into scenes. To completely remove the puffins from the movie in post production was going to prove very expensive. Instead the film makers incorporated the puffin and a new creature, a Porg, a digitally altered puffin was born!

So I wish you a happy new academic year, and if you don’t have a completely clean slate, don’t let that overshadow you. Build on your past experiences to inspire something new!

New Year’s Resolution

Like many people, I haven’t had a good track record with keeping New Year’s Resolutions. Most years January’s well-judged intentions became February’s forgotten thoughts.

To make things simpler, a number of years ago, I decided on having a “word of the year” rather than a specific resolution. The word was to be a frame of mind for the year, rather than entail any specific target of weight loss or rooms decluttered.

The first word I chose was “acceptance” and I lived that year feeling much calmer than I had before. On occasions where I would previously had my back up or be quick to respond to provocation, I remembered “acceptance” and took more things in my stride.

The following year, my word was “resilience”. When I thought of it, I imagined a cloak of strength around me and it helped me through many challenges.

My word for 2019 was “compassion”. At every encounter, I tried to remember this. Maybe I thought a shop assistant was rude but once the “compassion” mindset kicked in, I considered that he might have been up half the night with a sick child.

2019 felt positive as I enjoyed having the standpoint of believing the best in everyone, rather than being frustrated about shortcomings. Also, I think that by believing the best, I actually experienced that. By showing compassion, I received it back.

My word for 2020 is “authentic”. I am letting my hair go grey. I changed my LinkedIn profile picture to be one where I am wearing my glasses. I have been toying with writing a blog for a few years but always talked myself out of it concerned by how others might judge it. However, this is my 5th instalment and I’m enjoying writing about themes that interest me.

I think “creativity” is going to be my word for 2021. The world is challenging us to be more creative in our approaches to problem solving and I want to rise to that challenge and think about new ways of doing things. Also, I would like to add to my creative hobbies. I have already made a start. The photo attached is my first effort at sewing! 

Happy 2021!

Transition to College

Are you making the transition from second level to third level education this Autumn?

There is a story that in certain parts of the world, baby elephants are restrained by a rope around their leg. If they try to wander off, they are pulled back by the heavy rope.

Surprisingly, as the elephants get older and bigger, stronger ropes are not needed. By this stage, the elephant is so set in its beliefs that it can’t get away, farmers can use light river reeds in place of a rope and the elephant doesn’t even try to escape.

So whatever limiting ideas you had about yourself when you were in secondary school, they are as flimsy as river reeds. Now is your chance to step forward strongly and confidently into third level without any old baggage or reeds tugging on you and holding you back.

There’s a welcome and a place for everyone and you can be yourself. It is time that any negative beliefs you had before should be allowed wither away like dried up river reeds.

Now is your time!

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